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Relationship Awareness - Values and Boundaries - and Being Healthy

In our practice and process of growing toward self-awareness and healing, it's vital to recognize not just the external values, AKA 'boundaries' we try to maintain, but also those that reside within us. These internal values, AKA 'boundaries,' shape our interactions with ourselves, often serving as silent guardians of our emotional and mental well-being. My personal experience has taught me that it's within these internal spaces—these values and boundaries of the self—where I've encountered profound moments of self-unkindness. This unkindness stemmed largely from a perception skewed by self-centered fear, a lens that colored and influenced my view of myself and my interactions with others.

The path to recovery, moving from a state of relational unconsciousness to awareness, invites us to deeply accept our entire being: embracing the good, the challenging, and the truly extraordinary aspects of ourselves. This journey is anchored in the practice of kindness and friendliness towards oneself, which has a transformational effect on others. But how does this transition occur? How do we shift from being unaware of our relational dynamics to becoming fully present and accepting of our whole selves?

The answer lies in cultivating an intentional awareness of our internal values and boundaries. By understanding these values and boundaries—how they protect us, how they can sometimes limit us, and how our fears shape them—we begin to navigate our inner world with greater compassion, empathy, and wisdom. Recognizing the role of self-centered fear in our lives allows us to confront and transform this fear into a force for self-compassion. This transformation is about diminishing the fear and learning to approach ourselves with kindness, even in fear's presence.

In this context, recovery is a living meditation process and practice of becoming relationally aware—not only of how we relate to others but, crucially, how we relate to ourselves. It involves transitioning from isolation and fear towards a healthy connection, empathy, and understanding. This shift doesn't happen overnight but unfolds through consistent practice and reflective attention. It requires us to embrace kindness and friendliness, not as mere concepts but as daily practices that guide our interactions with ourselves and our internal experiences.

In accepting the full spectrum and range of our BEing—the light, the shadows, and everything in between, with intentionality toward our values and boundaries, we engage in the act of radical kindness. This acceptance, translated into healthy action, acknowledges our complexity and affirms our worth and that of others. Cultivating this acceptance involves mindfulness, self-reflection, and the support of a community that echoes our commitment to healing and growth.

In our pursuit of recovery and self-awareness, the invitation to happiness is to commit to observing and understanding our internal values and boundaries with kindness and openness. We could allow This unfolding to be influenced by an attitude of fore-giveness, and genuine friendliness towards ourselves and others as we navigate the beautiful complexity of being human. In doing so, we heal and discover the boundless capacity for compassion within us.

一Dignity and Grace

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