A question we could drop into our meditation practice, contemplate and sit with is: Do I regularly make choices that I later regret or that create more suffering, guilt, or shame? When I reflect on actions that result in being my own crisis creator on a spectrum, do I see that I am creating an unsustainable - physical, mental, emotional, and spiritual - debt load with interest that I might be spending the rest of my life trying to pay off, and perhaps can't? What's the short-term and long-term consequences of having to spend precious time, trying to live backwards doing another clean-up on aisle 9, and trying to live forward and free at the same time?
The invitation is to align our choices and actions with our values and disrupt the process of being investors in regret, guilt, shame, and suffering; because we're disappointing ourselves by not living in the direction we really want to. That could allow us to live coherently within our values, which could be both the compass we use to navigate our experiences and our boundaries with self and others.
As my sponsor says, "In This Way, we could be happier in our heart and head." My grand sponsor sometimes asks... "what would we do with our time and life if we gave ourselves permission to live with dignity and grace - without creating a need for more amends?" May we live our values with Integrity and Intentionality.
一We Are the Practice Itself