In my continuous process of uncovering and healing from the toxic relationship with addiction mind... negativity mind, Step 8 invites reflection and more than just surface level consideration on the impact we’ve had—not as a burden or judgement of guilt, but as an opportunity to mend and amend. The pivot-point to this process for me personally is the quality of my willingness, which was the key that unlocked and opened the door to genuine transformation, instead of a temporary fix that will result in falling back into unhealthy habits and patterns.
To mend is to begin the healing process, repairing the torn connections between ourselves and others, if our intention is to stop suffering so much, caught in bear-traps AKA cravings laid out by addiction mind. Acknowledging the harm we’ve caused and influenced is essential, but mending alone can leave us entangled with old patterns, patching up the past without addressing the deeper roots of our suffering.
Amending, however, requires us to go beyond surface-level repair. It calls for a shift in our fundamental nature, in our conduct, awareness and consciousness. But this shift is impossible without a deep and genuine willingness—a readiness to change, to face our actions, and to step into the discomfort of transformation can bring, because it can think and feel unnatural. Amending means embracing intentionality (意図, ito), not just to repair, but to transform. It involves looking inward, recognizing the inverted instincts that led us astray, and setting a new direction where our actions reflect our true values and the True-Nature within us that's sourced in goodwill and Love with L/O/V/E.
In Zen (Way of Unifying physically, mentally, emotionally and spiritually), true healing—true uncovering—begins when we release our attentions hold on addiction mind's narrative. By releasing attention from the false, fear-based, and insecure messaging of mind and engaging in a living meditation practice, closely aligned with our values, we discover the willingness, and then the understanding to amend (changing how we show up in our interactions). But again, willingness is the foundation—without it, even the most disciplined efforts can become hollow. Amending is about meeting our karma (actions) and dharma (portals of grace) as they are, with a clear awareness, an open heart, and most importantly, a willing personhood.
Step 8 is not just about making a list or preparing to make apologies. It embodies the principle that change is not only possible but essential. Through consistent practice, unwavering commitment (Step 3: We made a decision to turn our will and lives over to the care of our Values as we understand them in the present moment and to the best of our ability), and above all, a deep willingness to face the truth, we move from merely mending the past to amending our present moment experiences. In doing so, we create a path where our actions are aligned with our deepest values and intentions, paving the way for genuine transformation.
一Dignity and Grace
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